What is Swinging or The Lifestyle?
Swinging or as it is more commonly known, "The Lifestyle" has a long history that goes back to Roman orgies; however, for these tips and facts I will assume that what you are interested in, is the Modern Swinger. For most people Swinging is defined as non-monogamous, recreational sex with someone other than their mate, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. It is not a traditional dating experience. It usually occurs between two couples or between a couple and a single female or male. Anyone you know could be a Swinger. Swingers are Welders, Doctors, Accountants, Mothers & Fathers, Sons & Daughters, Teachers & Philosophers. They are Black, White, Asian, Latin, and can be found everywhere in the world. I would bet there are Swingers in your family but you just don’t know it! There is a negative moral stigma attached to being a Swinger so most people keep it private and hidden from friends and loved ones.
The majority of Swingers are successful people and most research has shown that their average income is much higher than the general population. It has also been our personal experience that people in the Lifestyle are highly educated, and generally interesting people to talk to. If you look for a common thread between successful people, interesting people, and Swingers, I believe that you will find that none of these people are "Sheep". Successful people are typically not followers; they forge their own path in life, that same mind set may have made them question monogamy and general societies definition of morality. People have asked me what the number one profession in "The Lifestyle" is, and are surprised to find out it is by far and away teachers, followed by doctors, lawyers, fire fighters police officers, and small business owners.
Though traditionally Swingers just swap partners, it has grown over the past 15 year to be much more encompassing. It includes Voyeurs, Exhibitionists, couples interested in Soft Swap, or Girl-Girl play. It may also include specific Fetishes, or maybe people that just like dressing sexy, flirting. and being in a sexual environment.
Is it Dangerous?
Of course it is more dangerous to swing than not swing. In life you have to figure out what degree of risk you are willing to live with. It is more dangerous to ride a motorcycle than drive a car. It is more dangerous to leave your house than stay inside. If you wrapped yourself in bubble wrap and never left your house you may never be injured, but what in the hell kind of life would that be? At SwingersUnderground we STRONGLY encourage the use of safe sex and regular testing. I feel that, if I practice safe sex the risks are low. I want to ride my Motorcycle and have sex with other peoples wives, these are risks that I can live with! The risk; however, may be too great for other people, and they may choose not to participate in The Lifestyle, and that is fine also.
Are there privacy concerns?
Absolutely, I wish I could tell you that there are no privacy concerns but the truth is that there are. They can be minimized, if you are conscious of what you do. First let me make this statement as the owner of one of the most secure web sites on the Internet. If you put information, photo, statement, etc. on the internet other people will have access to it…period. Social Networking sites like Facebook have become a big problem, and reason for concern. People invite friends, family and business colleagues to view their Facebook profile, and sure enough some jerk posts on your wall "Great to see you last night at Trapeze (swingers club). Man you have a great ass, and can sure give a blow job!" Guess who else saw this? You mom, kids, boss… Leave Facebook for friends and family, if you want to meet swingers join a swingers site. We hope you choose SwingersUnderground but there are also other good sites out there. Do your due diligence, and join a site that has been around for a while and is secure. We try very hard to protect peoples photos and other information on SwingersUnderground. Our database is encrypted, we use a third party credit card processor, we disable right click for photos etc. However if you put your photo out there, it is out there. NO web site can 100% protect your photos. If you are concerned about your photo slipping out, we strongly suggest you "password protect" them on whatever site you use. You can also use programs like Photoshop to manipulate the photo before you post it to obscure parts of the photos that can be recognizable.
Will Swinging help problems in our marriage?
YES it will! If you are having a bad marriage, and you want to end it, Swinging will certainly speed up the process! Seriously, if you are having marital issues, the last thing you need to do is get involved in The Lifestyle. Without trust and a solid relationship, The Lifestyle is not for you.
How do I meet other Swingers?
This is the easiest one! Join SwingersUnderground! We highly recommend that you join SwingersUnderground, Swingers Underground or another adult Social Networking Site. Not only can you meet people, but you can find people that are interested in the same things that you are interested in. It also takes out the awkward moment of trying to figure out what the other couple is interested in when you meet them in person. You can work all that out ahead of time. There are also lists of private parties, swingers group vacations, lifestyle club events, etc. There are Swingers clubs locators and other features that will help you find your way through The Lifestyle.
We also strongly suggest that you attend a Lifestyle club event or Meet & Greet. Though most Meet & Greets have more newbie's, Lifestyle clubs have experienced couples that are typically glad to give you advice and show you around. Both of these are great choices and are very low pressure environments. You will be amazed that there is more inappropriate behavior and pressure at the corner bar, than a real Lifestyle club. We would recommend staying away from house parties at first, because there is a much higher expectation of sex at these types of events. Lifestyle friendly resorts like Hedonism II or Desire are also great place to meet like-minded people. These resorts can be as mild or as wild as you want them to be. For more information on these resorts go to LoveVoodooTravel.com (I know, I am plugging our travel business, but honestly, we have the best trips!)
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What is the general Etiquette?
A number of years ago I wrote "Single Male Guide To The Lifestyle" Though I wrote it for Single Men, in general the same things apply to couples and single women. I will post it below.
Warning: If you are easily offended, please do not read